Difficult Decisions
My husband will be leaving Japan in April (after his non-JET teaching contract ends) and returning to America ahead of me in order to set up our living accommodations and to find work. As some of you already know, this leaves us with a huge dilemma to resolve: Should Jared and Everett stay with me in Japan or return with hubby?
On one hand, it would be challenging to get things cleaned, packed, and otherwise tie up loose ends here while acting as a single parent of two. I also would have to miss out on a lot of farewell social engagements.
On the other hand, it would be difficult for my husband to get settled and find work in the States if the kids were with him, and I wouldn't be there to help them deal with reverse shock. Most of all, I would miss the boys so much!!
I welcome your thoughts and opinions.
On one hand, it would be challenging to get things cleaned, packed, and otherwise tie up loose ends here while acting as a single parent of two. I also would have to miss out on a lot of farewell social engagements.
On the other hand, it would be difficult for my husband to get settled and find work in the States if the kids were with him, and I wouldn't be there to help them deal with reverse shock. Most of all, I would miss the boys so much!!
I welcome your thoughts and opinions.
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I think the kids will have an easier time with culture shock than the adults. What about your guys' parents? Can the kids stay with them? Like, the kids can go back with your husband and then stay with his or your parents, your husband can find work w/o having to take care of them, and you can tie up the loose ends in Japan.
I think kids adapt sooner, but that the initial shock can be just as great or greater--especially for young kids like Everett who really don't understand what's going on.
Unfortunately, the kids staying with our parents is no an option. Maybe with my oldest sister, but she already has 5 kids, so that would be asking a lot.
Hmm. Well, I didn't mean to undermine their culture shock. I guess this is a bit a pickle you're in. The only other thing I would suggest is to have your kids fly back separately from you or your husband, but they're awefully young. I'm guessing it's best to have them stay back with you.
Not sure if these are good suggestions, but I don't see anyone else giving any ideas.
Yeah, I don't think anyone else has any idea, either. Thanks for the input. The decision will eventually be made whether I'm certain about it or not.
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